K starts practically every workday in a very grumpy mood, dissatisfied with his clothing options because few tops fit and is yet completely hesitant to buy anything new. He says that he feels really guilty about spending our money on things he won’t wear forever. I’ve tried everything I can think of to help alleviate this unnecessary guilt and stress, including but not limited to:
- Humor – “The alternative would be to go to work naked or risk your Falco bump busting out in the middle of a staff meeting.”
- Logic – “Bean [yes, I call him “bean”], we always knew this day was coming. It is a valid pregnancy-related expense.”
- Excitement about becoming a parent – “The fact that your belly is growing is a good thing! It means that Falco is growing strong and that we’ll soon meet her/him. Now, in the meantime, let’s find some items to cover him/her.”
- Tactful honesty – “I’m thinking that might need to be the last week you wear that particular shirt. Why don’t we go buy a few things this weekend?”
- Empowerment – “Everyone deserves to have clothes that fit and make them feel put together.”
- Just buying stuff without his input.
I’m not sure what else I can do! I love this man more than words can express and the fact that he feels bad about taking care of himself in this way really tears me up. Do any of you, dear readers, have ideas about how I can help K move beyond this point and get him some damn clothes that fit? For those of you who are, or who have been, pregnant, did you feel any of this guilt? Any insight you could provide would be greatly appreciated!