FYI (if you’re a teenage girl)

This article was making the rounds recently and has been getting a lot of buzz:

FYI (if you’re a teenage girl).

Now, I’m all for encouraging young women to believe that their value stems from so much more than their appearance and that their actions matter, as part of this post addresses, but I have to say, as the mother of a son (at least until/unless he tells me otherwise), I have a few choice words about this post:

  1. I’m horrified by this particular mother policing her kids’ sexuality and invading their privacy.
  2. I particularly hate that she puts the blame and responsibility for men’s urges and subsequent actions on young women. She’s saying that someone can’t be sexually stimulated by something and be able to control his/her urges. Boys will be boys, after all.
  3. What about teaching her young men that women are people who should be respected and that they aren’t just bodies – or worse – body parts, placed on Earth for their sexual stimulation and gratification?
  4. Her assumption that her children will be heterosexual is nauseating and ridiculous.
  5. Double standard much? Young sluts ladies, don’t parade around braless in your pajamas, but be sure to check out my shirtless sons and husband who are flexing at the beach.

What do you think about this parent’s approach to sexuality and social media consumption? What is (or do you plan to be) your approach to these topics?

Edit: I found another blog post that is much more in line with my preferred approach as it relates to sexuality and social media. I decided to post the link as a great counterpoint to the above referenced post.

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Repost: “No Thanks”

A really outstanding article on trauma survivorship and setting boundaries with children (and with yourself!):

“No Thanks.”

Referenced in the article, btw, is one of my new favorite resources for parenting, Janet Lansbury.

The Ethical Implications of Parents Writing About Their Kids

As found on STFU, Parents, a recent article in The Atlantic discusses ethical considerations as it relates to parents writing about their children in mass audiences.

Via this blog, K and I plan to continue referring to our child as Falco (and likely us as C and K) after s/he is born, but may occasionally post photos of her/him and will definitely tell stories. We want to try to strike a balance between telling our story and being available to other gender variant people who want to grow their families, while maintaining as much privacy as we can for our kid.

What do you think about online parental sharing?

How to make a baby: sperm donors, IVF, and mad science experiments

I really, really love this recent post on Offbeat Families. It makes me think about how we conceived Falco and how I hope our child one day views this journey we’ve taken in order to grow our family.

So much of this resonates for me, namely:

[S/he] will know how much we wanted [her/him], our precious result of a mad science experiment gone wonderfully right.