Now, I’m all for encouraging young women to believe that their value stems from so much more than their appearance and that their actions matter, as part of this post addresses, but I have to say, as the mother of a son (at least until/unless he tells me otherwise), I have a few choice words about this post:
I’m horrified by this particular mother policing her kids’ sexuality and invading their privacy.
I particularly hate that she puts the blame and responsibility for men’s urges and subsequent actions on young women. She’s saying that someone can’t be sexually stimulated by something and be able to control his/her urges. Boys will be boys, after all.
What about teaching her young men that women are people who should be respected and that they aren’t just bodies – or worse – body parts, placed on Earth for their sexual stimulation and gratification?
Her assumption that her children will be heterosexual is nauseating and ridiculous.
Double standard much? Young sluts ladies, don’t parade around braless in your pajamas, but be sure to check out my shirtless sons and husband who are flexing at the beach.
What do you think about this parent’s approach to sexuality and social media consumption? What is (or do you plan to be) your approach to these topics?
Edit: I found another blog post that is much more in line with my preferred approach as it relates to sexuality and social media. I decided to post the link as a great counterpoint to the above referenced post.
Via this blog, K and I plan to continue referring to our child as Falco (and likely us as C and K) after s/he is born, but may occasionally post photos of her/him and will definitely tell stories. We want to try to strike a balance between telling our story and being available to other gender variant people who want to grow their families, while maintaining as much privacy as we can for our kid.
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 9,700 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 16 years to get that many views.