About the Falco Project

We started on this journey in December 2011. At the time, we felt like we were embarking upon something pretty novel and life-changing. C had never envisioned herself as a parent, never felt close to any young person, even when she was a young person. Suddenly and to the shock of her husband K, C changed her mind.

Both C and K knew that C didn’t have the ability to carry their child. They began exploring their options. One evening while researching options to bring children into their lives, K, who identifies as a proud transguy, turned to C and said, “How would you feel if I carried our baby?” C knew that it was likely physically possible for K to conceive a child, even if it would mean going off of testosterone after more than six years of taking the hormone. C was concerned that the process of going through hormone fluctuations, the process of trying to conceive and then ultimately gestating a child while being exposed to incorrect judgments and assumptions about his gender, would be a terribly trying experience. After much discussion and reflection, K decided that he wanted to try to conceive and carry their child.

It took several months of being off of testosterone for K’s menstrual cycle to return. That entire time, he charted his basal body temperatures each morning and started testing with ovulation predictor kits. C and K found a reproductive endocrinologist that they liked and who felt respectful of their identities and plan to conceive. During the process, C and K talked to their close friends and family about their plans and intentions.

C and one of her friends had a running joke about terrible, trendy baby names that many parents select for their newborns. One day, while they were at work, C’s friend received an email from a customer service representative named Falco. She and C thought the name sounded quite a bit like one of those humorous. trendy baby names, and C’s friend began teasing that she would refer to their baby as Falco. K and C began referring to their future child as Falco as an inside joke, a funny placeholder of sorts for the actual name they’d eventually claim for their baby. Thus, the Falco Project was formed.

Baby E was born on April 8, 2013 at 12:42 p.m., weighing 8 lbs, 2 oz and was 18.5″ long. He. Is. Perfect.

We plan to use this space to document our phenomenal parenting journey. It’s certain to be a bumpy ride, but we’re up for the challenge!

13 thoughts on “About the Falco Project

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  2. I was just wondering, why can’t C carry a baby? None of my business of course, just a curiosity reading through your guys’ blog.
    Congrats on Falco! One more month, you must be so excited!

    • I don’t mind answering this because I’m fairly open, but I’m guessing that most people who can’t conceive due to various forms of infertility would feel more guarded about this information.

      From the time I was 10 and started my period, I experienced a lot of gynecological problems. After two decades of extraordinarily heavy bleeding and massive amounts of menstrual pain, and with no plans to bring children into my life, I made the decision to have an endometrial ablation procedure. I knew full well that this would mean that I couldn’t ever carry children and, while it made our journey more difficult and definitely non-traditional, I don’t regret the decision because it rid me of so much misery.

      • -hugs-
        I can only imagine! My friend gets periods like that and has always suffered through them thinking something is wrong/she’s going to die, etc. I wonder if she would be interested in that procedure… (Don’t mind me I tend to ramble), is is like Essure? Google here I come, haha.
        Well I think your journey is amazing, you’re both amazing! Congrats again!

  3. I think you mentioned this in a previous post but how can I contact you for a password? My wife and I have been following your journey for the past few months. We live in the Ann Arbor ish area and are expecting our first this summer 🙂

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